When our partner passes, it can sometimes feel like we are losing our identity as well. Who are “you” when there’s no longer a “we?” How do we create a present and future without their physical presence? As LGBT+ people, our relationships are often intertwined with how we connect to our community. It can be disconcerting when engaging with our community after the loss of our partner, and can add another layer of grief and confusion to our journey. We will share and discuss how we have navigated these transitions, the challenges we faced, and our connections with our community.