Tom experienced sudden, traumatic loss when his wife was killed in their home. Their teenage daughter was taken into custody and later charged with murder. In the ensuing months and years fear, anger, guilt and shame overshadowed his intrinsic need to pace and nurture himself for the longer journey. While Tom hasn't yet reached the pinnacle of recovery from traumatic loss, he has bridged the gap between what his previous life was like and what it's like today. Tom now resides in Raleigh, North Carolina. His personal outreach efforts include support to military veterans and to surviving families of homicide victims.